Unfortunately for many, it is still an uphill climb. The road to self-acceptance requires a lot of personal effort. This all begins with self-affirmations. Saying to yourself something like the following will be very helpful: I am a beloved child of God. I am worthy of love. I am who I am meant to be. Being gay is good!
I would encourage any gay person who is struggling with their sexuality to work with affirmations on a daily basis. It is the only way to come to a place where you can love and accept yourself. It is also of utmost importance to surround yourself with people who affirm you just as you are.
Sometimes this will mean having to make hard choices. If your family or friends do not accept you, you may need to distance yourself from them. Network and find safe people and safe places who affirm you. Create a new family. Make new friends. Never take on anyone's judgment of you. You are inherently good and were made gay for a reason.
This is one of the reasons I have created my series of books who are filled with gay characters. Some of them also have had problems accepting their sexuality, but I place them in situations where they are forced to learn and grow. This is something you, too, can do.
That was a lifetime challenge for me. I hadn't wanted to be gay as a child or young adult. It wasn't until after I married, that I came to accept my true nature. It was difficult to let go of my beloved wife, but I knew that was the path I needed to follow if I was to remain true to myself. This the same challenge faced by many who have followed a similar path. They, too, tried to please their families as they also struggled with their inherent sexuality.
Once I embraced my nature and surrounded myself with people who affirmed me, I felt a new freedom and sense of joy. This can be your reality as well. It's not to say that it will be easy, but it is worth the effort. Otherwise, you will continue to struggle as your deny an important part of yourself.
Be assured that there is a whole new world of self-discovery for you out there. Know that times have changed and that there are many wonderful organizations that will support you. Know that you are beloved and that you will come to a new sense of peace and joy as you become authentic to yourself.
Life may not be as funny as it is in my books, but that doesn't mean that you can't create your own joy. That's what life is meant to be about. The task for you is to accept life on life's terms and to make the most of it. You are the only one who can do it. Go for your bliss!